E-Feminists especially the ones from Nigeria frustrate me. They fight the problems of the Western middle class women that have access to all the good things of life when the women that need the fight don't have a voice, they don't have internet, hell, they don't even have food.
It has reached an extent where they have this destructive need to dictate what every man should do with her life and you dare not question their opinions. Totalitarian dictatorship cleverly disguised.
In some parts of Nigeria; particularly the east, women are still being disinherited from the estate of their deceased husbands on the sole ground that they are women. The barbaric culture of cultural mourning is still in place. This is the fight for which feminism in Nigeria should be focused, not mundane nonsense.
In some settlements in the south south, women are still being used as iwofa (a system of mortgage where women are given in exchange of financial favours), yes, you heard that, even right from birth. A form of slavery in place against women. Down north, girls child hawking is on the rise, girls child are out of school. This is the fight.
In workplaces, women are still being sexually harassed thereby making the workplace uncomfortable for them. Women are subjected to constructive dismissal by their colleagues and bosses. Women are being underpaid for the same work of their male colleagues. This is the fight.
Women are having their appointments being stylishly terminated as a result of their maternity obligations. Get it right, they are terminating the woman's appointment because she dared to bring a life into the world while being in their employment. This is the fight.
Your fight is not who cleans or cooks in the house. Gender roles will ever be here. Women do not wash the car, they don't cut the grasses in the house, they don't make repairs in the house, they don't protect the family, that's the man's job, you don't see men whining.
Someone very expensive to lose told me something recently, she said as long as what the woman is doing is what she wants to do, as long as that is her choice at the point in time, that's her feminism and she should never be castigated for it.
The import of this is:
- If she wants to be a full time housewife and spend more time with her kids and family, that's her feminism.
- If she wants to cook, clean and take care of the home front, that's her feminism.
- If she wants to have a whole career, that's her feminism.
If you understand the above concepts, you will understand that feminism has moved on from who opens the car door or not. What if the woman wants to be treated that way, isn't that her feminism? Should she be castigated for that?
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